What you need to hear probably isn’t what you want to hear.
This is something I continue to think about, especially as it pertains to people I know.
They might be clients, friends, or just people I’m looking to help.
But coming out and saying what I know they need to hear wouldn’t be serving them. Why? Because timing is everything.
I need to pick the right moment to share my advice. And that’s only if I know my thoughts are going to be listened to. There’s no point in trying to help someone that doesn’t feel they need to be helped.
I wonder if my mentors and coaches feel the same way about me. Even if they don’t feel that way right now, at one point or another, I’m sure they did.
They waited for the right moment to tell me what I needed to hear. And for that, I’m eternally grateful. There’s a good chance I wouldn’t have taken it well if they had rushed in and told me before I was in a space to hear it.
It’s easy to become impatient and frustrated with people. But a good mentor always sits in the wings and waits for the question to come. Until then, they just listen.
If you’re a mentor or a coach, listening may not be what you want to do, but often the thing you need to do. Just like what your mentees need to hear probably isn’t what they want to hear.